We all
know the gospel story of Christ and the children: Then they brought
little children to Him, that He might
touch them; but the disciples rebuked those who brought them. But
when Jesus saw it, He was greatly displeased and said to them: "Let
the little children come to Me and do not forbid them, for of such
is the kingdom of God" (Mark 10:13-15). Christ's disciples
forbade parents with children to come near Him, fearing that the
children will somehow disturb the Lord. They thought, as many of
us do today, that children and infants are not able to assimilate
spiritual things. How did Christ react to this? He became indignant.
He was greatly displeased. We know that the meek and longsuffering
Christ became indignant only when truth was suppressed by delusion,
for instance: the hypocrisy of the Pharisees, the desecration of
the temple by the money-changers etc. And the truth is certainly
that which the Lord Himself teaches us: of such is the kingdom
of God. And embracing the children, He placed His hands on them
and blessed them. Take note when reading this short segment from
the Gospel, that the children were brought to Christ, they were
too young to even be led to Him, let alone come to Him by themselves.
The message to Christians is clear: bring your Children to Christ,
bring them to Church, baptize them, have them commune the Holy
Mysteries, bring them in your arms while they are still infants,
that they might with their simple five senses assimilate the beauty
of the Father's House: the holiness of the icons, the piety of
the chanting, the sweet smell of incense, the taste of the prosphora,
the prayerful silence of the congregation and the presence of familiar
faces all gathered in communal prayer. Even the youngest children
instinctively strive towards God and are more receptive than adults
to goodness and Divine grace. We must nurture in them the feeling
that they are in their Father's House. That feeling will not be
conceived within them of its own accord, if we do not guide them
to it, if we do not bring them to Church.
Much is expected of
Orthodox parents and a Christian upbringing of children is an
ascetic podvig of its own kind. Part of the Christian
upbringing is also teaching your child how to behave in Church.
If a child quietly moves through the Church, or if a baby "sings" occasionally,
it certainly does not disrupt the services, but is a part of the
general atmosphere of the Church as a large family. Naturally,
if there is a real disruption, such as loud crying or talking,
the parent will, according to his or her own discretion, take the
child out of the church or react appropriately. The easiest and
most natural way to teach a child how to behave in church is by
bringing them to all services, to stay with them from the beginning
to the end and to teach them by our own example. We must behave
in a Christian way and follow all of the Church's commandments
not only during services, but also at every moment of our lives
and in every place.
No man can serve two
masters and our inconsistency will certainly confuse our children
and sooner or later have a negative impact
on them, if in Church we behave as "pious Christians" and
elsewhere as "people of this world."
And so, again: bring your children to church. No Christian is
indifferent to the scene presented by a crowd of children all waiting
in line to receive the Holy Mysteries: some are quiet, some unruly,
some are carried in their parents' arms, some take their first
tottering steps towards the Holy Cup, having barely learned how
to make the sign of the Cross and pronounce the sweet name of our
Lord, while in the older ones one can already discern an adult
Christian. But on each and every one of those angelic faces one
can see, without exception, pure childlike joy, complete trust
and staunch faith in the Divine grace they are about to receive.
If it should happen, later in life, that their faith weakens, and
they fall away from God and the Church due to many temptations
and the immorality of today's world, God will not abandon them,
as He never abandons a person who carries deep within him the seeds
of goodness. When something frightening befalls them, and they
begin to recognize their own limitations and helplessness, as they
reflect on the purpose of life, long forgotten memories of their
Father's House will re-awaken in them and the grace of God will
once again touch their souls to take them back to the right Path,
the only one which leads to salvation.